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Etiquette: Giving up the seat

September 4, 2006 by in Random with 14 Comments

I came across this very interesting article that I thought would spark a good debate on this site.

Does a gentleman offer his seat on the train or bus?

The recommended advice was: A man should always give his seat to people who would otherwise fall down or suffer ill effects. For example: People on crutches, old people, Moms with kids, The tipsy. Beyond that, no. Women are equals now; They can fend for themselves. To offer a perfectly healthy woman a seat simply because she is a woman, however well intentioned, is creepy.

Agree? Disagree?


  • Dylan

    I agree, that is, unless, you like the girl. Then, I’d gladly give up my seat.

  • Adam

    Agreed. Same goes for women too — give up your seat to others who need it more, regardless of their gender.

  • http://quatre.wordpress.com Matthew

    Hey, if you really like the person try and get them to take the sit without you getting out of it. :D

  • http://beatdown.blogspot.com Vo

    Agreed 100%.

  • Roger

    Hey, as a Dad with a Kid, it is pretty rare (and appreciated) when someone gives it up. His mother swears that (understandably) a 25 pound squirming kid trumps an 8-pound bun in the oven. I’m all for people actually considering the needs of the standing person–male, female, old, whatever–over trying to score by offering a hot (and presumably fit) chick a seat in a some sort of pathetic creepy overture.

  • http://non jimmy

    yeah if it was my mum

  • http://addiqtmedia.com ikonQ

    I dunno, I give up with this kind of thing. :P

    Can’t do anything right anymore; Regardless of how anti-sexist some women are, I always tend to meet the hypocritical ones, who expect better treatment from men. Old-fashion ettiquette will die at the hands of anti-sexism I fear.

  • Roger

    Your mum is hot?

  • dov

    I offered my seat to an elderly lady, and a young bia*@& i mean girl, with ipod in the head, took it..

  • J.

    Whatever happened to chivalry?

  • Ben

    I have quit worrying about what people think of my etiquette. If a woman takes offence because I offer my seat or open the door for her, that is her problem, not mine. Sometimes I will try to make it less obvious, but for the most part, I do what I feel is right and polite and people can take it how they will.

  • s0crates82

    “Whatever happened to chivalry?”

    Horseriding? It’s still around.

    Nobility, well, it’s equal opportunity, nowadays.

  • Maria

    I disagree.

    It is so sweet and kind to acept when he offers…

    Bring up a smile for both people I think.

  • http://dissonanceink.com/blog Shannon

    As a woman, I say give me the seat. I’m for femimism and all, but with all the extra crap women have to deal with (i.e. montly torture, labor, men…), it’s all about the fringe benefits ;-)

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